How to hack your fear
𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗸𝗲𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗰?
Or found your mind was racing with a jumble of thoughts even before you opened your eyes?
That was my life, for many years.
Having to 𝗿𝗲𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝟮 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗴 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀, 𝟴𝟬𝟬𝟬 𝗹𝗲𝗳𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝟮𝟱,𝟬𝟬𝟬 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗱 does that to you!
I’ve spent many years learning how to move the needle on my fear.
To re-write my sob story into a happy story.
𝗧𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿.
So when my coaching client, Taylor, called - I knew exactly how to help him.
“𝗡𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗲, 𝗜’𝗺 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗰 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗸. 𝗜’𝗺 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗵𝗮𝗶 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗮 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗜 𝗱𝗼?”
Taylor is a super successful private banker who, unfortunately, ended up with an abusive boss.
When I say abusive, I mean the kind of boss who takes pleasure in your pain.
The kind who gaslights and loves watching you suffer as s/he puts you down and says you’re a loser at every turn.
I called Taylor on the spot and in the 3 minutes we had before his meeting, I taught him, step-by-step, a deep breathing exercise.
He came down from his panic attack and was able to stay calm for his client meeting and the rest of the day.
In combination with the 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 to understand his anxiety and how to handle his toxic boss, the 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗲 was so effective that Taylor kept practicing and got better and better at managing his emotions.
And because he was so good at managing his emotions, he was able to stay calmer when attacked by his boss.
And because he was calmer, 𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 and 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝗜 𝗴𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝗺 to set boundaries, deflect and minimize his boss’s angry outbursts, and put his boss in place.
Taylor was able to stay in his job until he achieved his goal - all with less stress and more sleep.
𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲? 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁:
When you wake up tomorrow, as you lie in bed before you get up:
1. Take a moment to feel your body. Where is it tight? How tight is it?
2. What thoughts are going through your mind? Is your mind full of your worries and fear?
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗴𝗼, 𝗜 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁:
1. My entire body was tight all over from stress.
2. My thoughts were running a mile a minute and focused on the issues / challenges I was facing.
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿, 𝗮𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀.
How?
1. 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗮𝗯𝗱𝗼𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴: This is how God designed our bodies to breathe, and it’s the scientifically proven to be the quickest and most effective way to calm down our emotions. Best thing is, it’s free!
2. 𝗘𝘅𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀: Keep a journal. Once you are able to identify the beliefs that make you so anxious, you can start to change the beliefs that don’t serve you.
3. 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗶𝘁 - 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: We often reject our negative emotions because they are “bad.” But emotions are emotions, and the harder you right them, the more they stubbornly stay as part of your psyche. When a wave of emotions come, find a quiet place to sit and allow them to wash all over you, don’t fight it. You will find the emotion will lose its control over you, and you will be able to see “you” and “your emotions” as separate entities.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
Your emotions are dictated by your thoughts.
Change your thoughts, change your emotions.
How you feel, what emotions you feel is a 𝗖𝗛𝗢𝗜𝗖𝗘.
You can choose your thoughts to choose your emotions.
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵.
- Natalie
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