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𝗔𝘀 𝗮 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿, 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸.

𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘨𝘰.

Ask yourself

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗦𝗘𝗘𝗡 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿?

𝗢𝗿 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗕𝗘 𝗮 𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿?

Taylor was stressed, overworked and exhausted.

She barely had any time for herself or her young family because of the long hours she put into her work.

𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗳𝗳, 𝗔𝗹𝗲𝘅, 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗺 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝟮 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗽𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘀, 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗷𝗼𝗯.

2 years??

Why didn’t you fire the guy already?

𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲… 𝗧𝗮𝘆𝗹𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀.

𝗔 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘂𝗽 𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗳𝗳.

She would keep giving them chances and keep believing and encouraging them until they could perform.

Poor Alex, how could she be so heartless by firing him and putting him out of work?

Seems like Taylor has a heart of gold! An angel on earth.

But you haven’t been reading my posts and newsletters to get this kind of superficial, feel good bullsh*t.

Nah.

Taylor wasn’t being nice or good to Alex because she is a good person.

(I’m not saying she isn’t a good person, I mean her deep down intention.)

Taylor was keeping Alex on board because:

→ She didn’t want others to think she is a mean b*tch.

→ She didn’t want to feel guilty that she is a b*tch for firing this poor, incapable staff.

Wait a minute.

That means Taylor wasn’t keeping Alex on board out of care and concern for him.

Taylor was doing it out of purely selfish reasons

She was afraid what people would think of her.

And…

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝗮𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗔𝗹𝗲𝘅 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗷𝗼𝗯, 𝗮 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗷𝗼𝗯, 𝗮 𝗷𝗼𝗯 𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻?

Firing Alex from a job that is unable to perform can be the biggest blessing for Alex.

And waaaay better than:

→ Alex being constantly criticized and yelled at for his incompetence by Taylor.

→ Taylor being exhausted from doing Alex’s work for him.

Yep.

𝗜𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗼𝗳 “𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲” 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀, 𝗧𝗮𝘆𝗹𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝘀𝘀, 𝗰𝗿𝘂𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗵𝗶𝗺.

If Taylor really and truly cared for Alex, she would put him out of his misery.

Heck

She could even try to find him another job!

Guess what?

𝗧𝗮𝘆𝗹𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗔𝗹𝗲𝘅 𝗴𝗼.

And she found him another job.

And guess what?

𝗔𝗹𝗲𝘅 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗻 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗷𝗼𝗯, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗿.

Are you Taylor?

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 “𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗦𝗘𝗘𝗡 𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱/𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿”

𝗔𝗻𝗱 “𝗕𝗘” 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱/𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿.”

Which can include firing your staff

(And helping them behind the scenes to get a job they can excel at)

Are you Alex?

Don’t let someone crush your soul.

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝘁, 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗮 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵

You may need to fire your manager

But not before learning all the lessons you need to learn from this experience - including why did you choose a job that was such a mismatch in the first place - so you don’t repeat the experience ever again.

And hey

I’m not pointing fingers at Taylor.

𝗪𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 “𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗻” 𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱/𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗿𝘁/𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻?

𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘶𝘴 - 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦 (𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵!).

The key is not to feel bad about yourself for it

And not to keep lying to yourself to avoid it.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗸𝗲𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲, 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗽𝘀, 𝘀𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.

So even though you may not get there overnight, at least while you’re on your way like I am, you don’t let it trip you up as much.

You can only consciously choose differently when you aware of it.

You can only choose to jump over a pothole when you know it’s there.

While you buy time to fix it.

- Natalie

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