This is not my definition of success
In the first 5 months of this year, I made more money than I made in all of last year.
On my last Asian speaking tour, over 5.5 weeks, I delivered:
28 speaking events
Across Hong Kong, Shenzhen, Singapore and online events for top MNCs and public institutions
Averaging more than 1 event per day.
And that doesn’t even include:
The 1:1 coaching work I do.
The Relationships That Work group coaching program.
And all the other stuff involved in running a business.
And so… I dropped the ball.
I didn’t…
Respond to emails
Follow up with people I met at conferences and events
Reply to or message people on LinkedIn or other social media
Have time to guide my team on their work
Grow the business the way we planned
I also didn’t have time or energy to…
Spend time with my family
Date my husband
See my friends
Exercise
Meditate
Sleep
Enjoy life
I continued to deliver my best to the clients I support, as I have always done.
Which is why my work exploded - more new client referrals, and more work from existing clients.
“Yours is the best talk I’ve seen at one of these events." - Global finance industry conference organizer.
“Your coaching program is a better investment than an Hermes bag.” - 1:1 coaching + Relationships That Work program client
“You got the highest rating of any speaker we’ve had.” - Global luxury brand training leader
And… the last few weeks I’ve even been getting 1-3 queries , 3-4 days a week for speaking events for the fall.
This is a successful career.
But this is not a successful life.
So, I went on slow mode the last week.
Time to make room in my mind, my heart, and my spirit so I can (continue to):
Do the work I love
Support the clients I love
Live the life I love
Spend time with family and friends
Spend quiet time with myself.
Continue work on myself, and grow spiritually.
Support my physical health - do a good job of eating well, sleeping well, and exercising well.
Here’s what I’m doing to reset:
Revisit and re-clarify what are my priorities, values, and goals.
Make time for what’s important + mark it on my calendar to prioritize my time and energy for what’s important to me.
Aggressively delegate what I can and get help both at work and at home, negotiate responsibilities that can be shared.
Communicate my needs and wants clearly so work and family understand and support the shift I’m making (no surprises) - and invite discussion where appropriate to make it a collaborative process.
Be (more) fully present whatever I’m doing at the moment, so I can fully savor it AND truly connect with people at work and at home. Can’t connect with people if your eyes are glued to your phone and your mind is elsewhere.
Clarity needs a quiet mind.
Inspiration needs a quiet heart.
That’s why starting tomorrow, I’m gifting myself with a 4-day mindfulness retreat.
What are you doing to be ready for what comes in the 2nd half of 2025?
-𝗡𝗮𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗲
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝟮 𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗲:
1. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗽 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 : I’m working on our next Relationships That Work Program intake, tentatively scheduled for September launch. If you’re interested to transform your home and work relationships to transform your life, DM me.
2. 𝟭:𝟭 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺: I work with a highly select group of senior leaders to help you get the clarity, strategy and take action to create the life you want. I’m opening up 2 spots in September, DM me if you’re interested.
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