Change This One Habit to be Happy

Change this one habit
And you’ll change your Life.

The first and most important step to happiness is

Stop complaining.
Stop blaming!

Because when you’re looking outside of yourself, you’re giving away your power.
It makes you helpless in changing the situation.

But isn’t that what you want sometimes?

You’re RIGHT. They’re WRONG!

Your employees may be complaining about you right now as you read this post
(what else do they do when they go for lunch?).

You didn’t promote them when they deserved it.
You don’t give clear instructions.
You can be overly emotional / mean.

What if…
They actually listened to you when you tell them what they need to do to be promoted - and focused on playing by the rules of this game (instead of playing by their own criteria).

What if…
They took the initiative to get clarity / better understand what it is you’re looking for. And when you don’t know what that is, skilfully guided you to see the viable options.

What if…
They learned to manage their own emotions and emotional triggers so they remained calm even when you get emotional. Or better yet, understood what triggers you, so they don’t trigger your emotions in the first place.

Wait a minute, didn’t I say stop complaining and blaming?

What if…
YOU learned to be more influential and impactful in your communication so that your message about promotions and other career topics land where it should.

What if…
YOU took the initiative to have more clarity + communicate more clearly on deliverables, and know when you don’t have clarity + ask for input / initiate a discussion to work it out together.

What if…
YOU learned to manage your emotions well so you don’t pass your anger, frustration, stress, anxiety, and unhappiness onto your staff.

Blaming others for your misery is much easier than doing the work to improve yourself.
No action required, no resolution.

Everything is someone else’s fault.

So you trap yourself in this vicious cycle of being Right but miserable - and making sure others are miserable along with you.

It’s true - Misery loves company.

Your new life begins when you stop complaining and blaming.
Your happy life begins when you start taking responsibility for every part of your life.

You can take back your power and change the situation.

I invite you to challenge yourself:

Try to go 1, 2, or even 3 days without complaining.

Each time you want to complain, ask yourself.

What can I do to take responsibility for this situation?
What can I do to resolve or in any way make this situation better?

You might see that it’s harder than you think. But the rewards are worth it.

See you next month!

I work with a select group of senior leaders 1:1 and have 2 openings for my July Senior Leadership Coaching Program intake - contact me if you’re interested.